Couples/Relationship Counselling


Couples/Relationships therapy is about me helping you to support your relationship. I won't take sides of your individual problems, I will try to gain how you are both experiencing them and work out what's going on in your relationship and encourage you to see things as a couple.  I am not able to fix your relationship, however, I can provide you with skills and ways to work together rather than against each other. 


Relationships are generally changing with couples now having 2-3 relationships in their lives, maybe juggling children from different relationships i.e. blended families and how this may have an impact.  It may be that you have been together a few years and notice you are growing apart a bit and want to find that 'spark' again, it could be that you have been together for over 10-20 years and wonder what your future holds with children may have left home and work changes or facing retirement.  Whatever the reason for couples/relationships therapy it can have a benefit to learn from the past, recognise needs in the present and look towards the future.


As a starting point, we will look at how you both communicate with each other, once this has improved (normally within 2-3 sessions) we can start to look at the trust and love in your relationship.  Along the way, we can recognise if there are any blocks/barriers to these and learn how to re-build these. This can be a difficult part to the therapy, however, I will support you with this and recognise each of your needs.   We will also consider what has happened in-between our sessions.


I will support with the dynamics of your relationship and how you relate to each other. Being able to manage conflict and disagreements is the foundation of a good relationship.  It is normal to have disagreements/arguments in a relationship, together we can consider how you argue and learn how to communicate more effectively and to find a way to stop them in their tracks.  


I have extensive experience working with individuals around relationships issues. Between 2013-2015 I took part in Couples/Relationships Therapy training which has given me a good grounding for working with couples,  In the past 4 years, I have gained experience working with couples in both private practice and in my role at Care Fertility. I have experience working with heterosexual and same-sex couples and aged between 20-70. 


Couples/Relationships therapy may include:

  • Affairs/Betrayal
  • Bereavement/Grief
  • Communication problems
  • Jealousy
  • Infertility/health issues
  • Lack of trust
  • Redundancy/work issues

How can relationship counselling help?

  • Destructive patterns of relating can be recognised and addressed.
  • Conflict and communication can be improved.
  • New relationship skills can be learned.
  • The impact of change and loss can be examined.
  • Relationships can be more successful.

 

I request in order to benefit from couples therapy, you both agree you have a problem in your relationship.  I ask you both come to all sessions together and if one person cannot attend, this session will be re-arranged to another time. 


I normally recommend up to 8 sessions,  you may need less or more than this and will be reviewed every few sessions.  Most couples I have worked with have found a benefit at 4 sessions.    I can provide you with an estimate of the recommended number of sessions at the initial appointment. 



I hope you will benefit from relationship therapy, previous problems may be

resolved and you can learn and understand what to do better.  Also to recognise

where to consider each other for a more positive and healthy relationship. I also  

hope that you see this support as an investment for your future together.
 



Please do not hesitate to contact me, if you would like further information about how

relationship therapy may support you.